Some have found that they have come to terms with knowing the spirit and soul of the person who has passed is free and will be with them. Their body is the shell and they have moved on.

Heavy words, but comforting for many.

We all have our own ways, some need to have a place to go, such as the burial site so we can talk to our lost ones. Others are satisfied to talk to them from anywhere it suits them.

The truth is they will always hear you no-matter where you are so dont be afraid to talk aloud anytime you like, because it not only helps you but your words will be heard.

Our main struggle is the physical loss.

When individuals are told by the person who is passing,”you have to let me go”, this is that person accepting it is their time and hoping you will understand this. Also this is preparation from them for you to accept this and help your loss.

This is what happened to my wife when she lost her mother. She comforted her until the time of her passing. My wife experienced seeing a number of expressions which showed her mother was seeing or hearing things. Her Mother said “He is waiting for me”, which meant her husband, my wife’s Dad, who had passed earlier. My wife explained to me it was hard to let her go but her Mother, by saying,”you have to let me go”, helped my wife to accept it was her Mothers time even though to this day she misses her greatly.

My wife has some amazing gifts and she is still in contact with her Mother, I myself have sensed her presence. It is difficult to accept we live in a shell, the soul lives on. Some of us are blessed with visitation, it is accepting this event that helps you through this heart ache.

When a person looses someone without warning it is much harder to accept. The sudden shock of not being able to have been there for them is so hard to bare.

Giving advice is never easy, but again you can reassure yourself, their spirit will be with you.

We ourselves lost a good friend just before Christmas. Les was a wonderful and kind loving person.

It is very hard to accept he has moved on. We will miss seeing him immensely. Whilst he was in hospital he would not have visitors because of his illness but we understood his wishes, we sensed it getting close for his time to go. We were offered to see him after but declined as we wanted to remember Les as we last saw him.

But again, we are strong believers in the spiritworld and we know and understand that we will hear and be heard when it comes to such a good friend, our Les.

We have always found that through our own experiences it is good to talk openly. It makes you feel close to your loss and with our experiences we have had many spirit visitation, although it is still a little early for our good friend Les, we look forward to that time when he is ready.

Believe in what you hear or see, never doubt it. It is there to comfort you so embrace it.

07/02/2010